“What does a Wedding Celebrant do?”

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A wonderful Bilingual Ceremony in Berlin for Tian and Andre Summer 2018 (photo credit Matthias Friel)

 

That’s a really good question!  A Family and Wedding Celebrant is someone who is trained in providing you with a custom made ceremony for a whole range of occasions, such as a Wedding, Vow Renewal, Baby Naming/Adoption or other special milestone, all carried out to reflect your own style and ideas.

Choosing a Wedding  Celebrant gives you the freedom to be creative and include additional rituals and customs. Popular customs are the Unity Candle Ceremony, Hand Fasting, Ring Warming and Sand Ceremony, but new ceremonies can be created using your own ideas, customs, traditions, and heritage, and also to have your ceremony in more than one language!

As a Bilingual Celebrant myself, I am able to offer ceremonies in both English/Englisch and German/Deutsch, which is a lovely way of ensuring all of your guests are able to really enjoy this wonderful occasion with you.  My bilingual ceremonies are proving to be really popular this year, so get in touch if you are thinking of holding one, as I have lots of ideas and suggestions in how to bring language and heritage and culture into your ceremony!.

I will help you to develop your ideas, create,  manage and co-ordinate all the aspects of your ceremony and be there to support you on the day itself, and will conduct your ceremony with warmth and sincerity in front of your guests.  If you wish to include religious content or hymns, just ask – as an independent Celebrant I just want to help you enjoy your day and can take all your ideas and wishes on board.

This is a video of me at the “office” where I created a ceremony for Kate and Peppy, at Ham Yard Hotel, London, on their breathtaking Rooftop Garden and Lounge!  A beautiful personal ceremony full of love and laughter!

Kate and Peppy’s Ham Yard Hotel London video beautifully created by Cupcake Videos.

Getting Married in England – the legal bit!

Currently the law doesn’t allow Wedding Celebrants in England to perform the contractual marriage ceremony.  You can obtain your legal licence at a Registry Office, where during a short civil ceremony that costs around £50 to £60 (although please check as many offices vary their fees)  During this “Standard Service” you will be asked to make a 32 word Declaration and Marriage Contract, in front of two witnesses.  Every Registry Office must offer standard services at their premises. but please book well in advance as naturally these will be limited.

During the Standard Service, you don’t have to dress up if you don’t want to, and you also don’t need to say any personal vows or exchange rings,  as this is not a mandatory part of the Marriage Service.  You can save that for your privately conducted celebratory ceremony, led by your chosen Celebrant, who will have worked closely with you to get to know you both, and create a totally tailored ceremony for you, with no restrictions in terms of format, content, time or location.

Many couples believe that marriage is more than a piece of paper – it’s the reasons behind making that choice to blend your lives and what marriage actually means to you as a couple that’s important and your wedding ceremony should be as unique as you are.

You don’t celebrate your child’s birthday on the day you registered their birth…. similarly you can celebrate your Wedding Ceremony on any day you choose – not necessarily the day you filled in the paperwork for the marriage licence – offering  you so much more scope and flexibility in terms of timing, location and costs.

As many couples are now blending faith, looking to create new customs and wedding rituals, or bringing into their ceremony customs from their own heritage, it really does make sense to hire a Celebrant, who can incorporate all your ideas and requests, which the Registry Office service is unable to offer, as it is tied to contract law.  They must always ensure that no religious or spiritual content is included, and that is why your vows, your music and your readings will be checked.

From personal experience it has been so wonderful to be able to respect the couple’s wishes and their family.  I have included hymns, prayers and worked alongside family priests and clergy too – it really is a great pleasure to know that ceremonies I create are exactly what my couples want them to be, and can include Blessings and Bible passages.

Your Celebrant- led Wedding Celebration

By separating the “legal” from the “celebratory” you are free to hold a truly personalised Wedding Ceremony that allows you to relax, and be fully involved in your ceremony. Together we create a ceremony which can be traditional or modern and as there are no restrictions, we can include your guests too!  A lovely custom is asking them to take part in a “Ring Warming ceremony” before you complete your vows and exchange your wedding rings. Your vows can be traditional or created just by you, for you.  There is no need to follow any “standard” text and I am here to guide and advise you on writing your vows if you wish.

Perhaps you’d like to say your vows in a favourite place?  No problem!  A Celebrant can work in any location and in licenced or unlicenced venues.   You could make your promises to each other on the beach,  on a boat , in a forest, at home in your garden or almost any where you wish.

We can involve children or other family members in the ceremony, making it a truly special occasion, and because it’s written totally for and about you, it will be totally different from anyone else’s wedding ceremony!

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Working together using email, text, phone or Skype or when possible meeting face to face – we create the ceremony you’ve dreamed about! With unlimited drafts you’re always in full editorial control. We can have a few surprises though – perhaps you’d like to keep your personal vows as a surprise on the day? No problem – I just omit them from the draft script until your wedding day!

I was trained by the UK College of Celebrancy in 2011 and am a Member of the Fellowship of Professional Celebrants, and am fully insured for Public and Professional liability.  Please ask if you wish to see my certificates and insurance documents. When booking you will  receive my Terms and Conditions along with a comprehensive booking form and questionnaire.

To get in touch to find out more about the process and tell me about your plans, just fill in the contact form below, or you can contact me directly by emailing ivvey@hotmail.com or just call/text my mobile +4407800 543 426. I would love to create a wonderful sincere and inspiring ceremony for you that celebrates your unique story!

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