So you’re planning your Wedding! Congratulations! There is so much to consider, and I am sure you will feel the list is endless, and it can be overwhelming. At some point though you will be happy with your planning, having set your budget, thought through the venue, the style and theme of your wedding and your “DRESS” !! Even though there are hundreds of other big and little things to do, don’t forget one really important element is your CEREMONY! This is the day you make your vows and promises and share your love and joy.
So, it should be just as unique and special as you are!
As a Celebrant, we can create exciting, memorable ceremonies for every couple, adding lots of personal, quirky or traditional touches – some of which I will explain here:
The Ring Warming Ceremony
This is where we pass the rings between each of your guests, asking everyone to hold the rings and warm them with their wishes or prayers for your future, for health and happiness and all that is good in life. It is a lovely touching ceremony that allows you to include all of your guests before you actually exchange the rings and wear them, warmed with the love and support of your family and friends.
The Hand Fasting Ceremony
This is traditionally what was meant by “tying the knot” – cords or ribbons or even sashes would be tied around the couple’s joined hands, as you can see from the photo, our own lovely royal couple did this in Church on their wedding day. A modern hand-fasting can have cords created in the colours of your wedding theme, the tartans of your clans, and can have charms attached that signify fertility, fidelity and commitment. The cord colours also have their own special meaning which is also something to consider. Many couples will choose to use fabric that has a significant meaning – such as a piece of lace from their mother or grandmothers gown, or a piece of tartan. The ceremony is specially written and can include many cords or ribbons bound by family members and even guests and might last around 20 minutes.
Jumping the Broom
This tradition is rooted in different cultures and depending on which it is, does hold different meaning. In England it is used as a symbol of sweeping away the old and preparing for the new. It is also said that the fastest over the broom will “wear the trousers ” in the Marriage! 😊. It is jumped together and hand in hand and is often chosen after a Handfasting by couples! The brooms can be decorated in the colours of your wedding theme and kept as a souvenir afterwards!
The Sand Ceremony
The Sand Ceremony is very popular as it has a lovely symbolic context – once the grains of sand from each vial pour in to the central vessel, those grains cannot be separated! The Sand Ceremony also works well with coloured sands that match your wedding theme, and also allow more than two colours – so if you wish to include your children or family members in the Ceremony, that can be incorporated too! A lovely way to blend two families!
The Rose Ceremony
This is a lovely Ceremony and very simple – it involves the Couple giving a single Red Rose to each other as the first gift in their marriage. However like many ceremonies it can also be adapted and I love the idea of a Surprise Rose Giving which means before the ceremony starts but after the introductions and welcome, the couple give a single Rose, to their mothers, or new mothers in law! How sweet is that! Or of course, the the guests can each hold a rose and subject of course to the number of guests, the roses can be given or taken by the bride and become her bouquet as she reaches her partner! Romantic? You bet!!! 🌹
The Unity Candle Ceremony
This is a beautiful and poignant ceremony for the couple as they each light a taper and then together light their candle. Again, the ceremony symbolises two becoming one, two hearts, two families, two people.
The candles can be large or small, engraved with vows or just with the name of the couple and their wedding date. There are a wide variety of candle holders and some beautifully embellished candles that will look stunning during the ceremony.
Hand or Foot Washing
This is a fairly new custom and seems to be gaining popularity as the symbolism is very tender and nurturing. The Washing of each other’s hands or feet is about the clearing and cleaning away the past, past choices, past mistakes and creating a new present from which to go forward together.
It’s also about care and vulnerability and accepting the role of carer in the relationship. It can also be seen to be about forgiveness, and how important it is too, to love with an open heart. So all in all a beautiful tender and romantic custom.
Wine Blending /Bridal cup
I love the idea of a ritual that blends two distinct or different elements. In a wine blending there’s the chance to demonstrate how the two wines made from the same fruit have their taste and qualities. Like marriage they may be sweet and sometimes a little bitter. The blended wine creates a new taste to reflect on and enjoy.
The Silver Bridal Cup is unique in that it allows two people to sip from it at the same time. My couple had beer and wine in a Bridal Cup and it was so cool watching them sip from their own and then each other’s beverage. Again every symbolic moment is written by me to reflect their relationship and personality. No two ceremonies are ever the same.
I have also come across several more : the 13 coins, the Signature Cocktail, and the Canvas Painting! Many have their origins in different cultures, but with respect and sensitivity can also be adapted and customised.
If you have found any more customs do let me know!